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You are facilitating more than you realize

The real question is not whether you facilitate, but whether you are doing it on purpose.

Bill Dickinson, D.Min., RCC Sep 22, 2026 · 5 min read

You are facilitating more than you realize

When I ask leaders whether they facilitate, most of them tell me no. They picture a consultant at a flip chart with a wall of sticky notes, and they assume that work belongs to someone else.

Then I ask them to walk me through their week: the Monday staff meeting, the one-on-ones, the briefing before a shift, the two direct reports who cannot agree on a schedule, the hallway conversation that quietly turned into a decision. Every one of those moments is facilitation. The real question is not whether you facilitate, but whether you are doing it on purpose.

I raise this because the cost of doing it by accident is high.

23 hrsa week executives now spend in meetings

71%of senior managers call those meetings unproductive and inefficient

61%of managers say most of their decision-making time is used ineffectively

Source: Harvard Business Review; McKinsey.

In my experience the meeting itself is rarely the problem. The way the conversation is led almost always is.

Facilitation, as I use the word with the leaders I coach, is the work of helping a group think well together and leave with something decided. It asks less of your expertise and more of your judgment: knowing when to speak, when to ask, and when to step aside so the best thinking at the table, which is not always yours, can come forward. Here are the seven practices I see make the biggest difference.

Before the conversation

Decide what kind of conversation it is

Before you walk in, be clear whether the group is exploring options, making a decision, or simply hearing an update. A room that does not know which of these it is in will drift, and people will leave with different ideas of what just happened.

Try saying“By the end of this hour, we need to leave with ___.”

In the room

Ask before you tell

Your title gives your first opinion enormous weight. The moment you share it, many people stop thinking and start agreeing, so lead with a question and let the room do its work before you add your view.

Try saying“What have we not considered yet?”

Watch the conversation beneath the agenda

Notice who is leaning in, who has gone quiet, who keeps circling back to the same point, and who glances at you before answering. Those signals often tell you more than anything on the slide.

Try saying“I’m curious to know what others think. Does anyone see this differently?”

Open the floor and keep the direction

Inviting participation does not mean handing over the steering wheel. Redirecting a tangent or gently limiting a dominant voice is not shutting anyone down. It honors everyone’s time and the purpose that brought you together.

Try saying“That matters, and I don’t want to lose it. Let’s capture it and give it proper time on ___.”

Hold back your answer long enough

Even when you already have a good idea, offering it too early can keep someone else from finding a better one. Some of your best leadership moments will be the ones where a direct report’s thinking carries the room.

Try saying“Let’s explore this together before I weigh in.”

Make disagreement useful

Healthy teams do not avoid tension. They work through it. Help people name exactly what they disagree about, bring assumptions into the open, and keep the focus on the work rather than on personalities. The meeting to worry about is the one where everyone nods and nothing real gets said.

Try saying“What’s the strongest argument against this?”

After the conversation

Close with commitments, then close the loop

Before anyone leaves, say out loud what was decided, who owns it, what happens next, and by when. Then follow through on what people offered. Not every idea will be adopted, but every idea deserves a response, and when people see their input lead somewhere, even to a clear no, they keep offering it.

Try saying“Here’s what we did with your suggestion, and here’s why.”

Put it to work this weekThree lines to write before your next meeting

01The conversation on my calendar that I am actually facilitating

02The one practice I will use on purpose, and how

03The voice I most need to hear, and how I will invite it

You do not need to become a professional facilitator. You simply need to notice that you already are one, and begin leading those conversations with intention.

Four things to hold

01Staff meetings, one-on-ones, and hallway decisions are all facilitation. Do it on purpose.

02Decide what kind of conversation it is before you walk in.

03Ask before you tell. Your first opinion carries the weight of your title.

04Close with commitments, then close the loop on every idea offered.

Bill Dickinson, D.Min., RCC Founder and Managing Partner, C3 Leadership

Thirty-five years spent alongside leaders in hard moments, first as a pastor and now as an executive coach. Author of Optimizing Self, second edition, September 2026.

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